Like a Bad Boyfriend?
What are the telltale signs that a relationship is not healthy? I’ve come up with a few and thankfully they are not from personal experience … or are they?
If you’re in a bad relationship, your boyfriend may be the controlling type. He always wants to know what you’re doing, where you are, who you’re with and why. He’ll tell you who to hang out with, what you should wear, when you should be home. He may even gaslight you, making you question your own sanity.
Another sign is a cycle of breakups and getting back together. You find a bit of resolution, leave him and before you know it he’s convinced you to come back.
If you’re aware that the relationship is unhealthy, you will hide it from your friends who have encouraged you to leave him for your own good. When you go back to him, you hide it so they don’t know. You don’t want to disappoint them or hear their opinion.
My relationship with food was like this for years.
I was controlled by food, diet culture, and the number on the scale. These things determined what I ate, where I ate, and made me feel guilty. I followed the trends: low fat, intermittent fasting, low carb, Atkins, the Daniel diet, and diets glorifying a single food such as grapefruit, cabbage, or celery. Thankfully I dodged the baby food diet, harsh cleanse diets, and using tapeworms!
And talk about breaking up and getting back together!? ALL THE TIME! I was usually good for 4 days. Then I’d come up with ‘reasons’ why I could skip this part or add that food. Before I knew it, I had totally ditched the plan. After a season of guilt, I’d run back for more abuse. It made me question my own sanity.
I was an expert in hiding food. My favorite trick was to go shopping and while I was out, I’d go through drive-throughs, hit the bakery, and if I needed some gas, there was another opportunity to pick up a ‘forbidden’ food. The trash was disposed of before I got home. There’s some useful information: Where are the local trash cans?Or if the food was in the house I’d just wait til I was alone to indulge.
It took me over 40 years to realize how bad my relationship with food was. As always, breaking up is hard to do. But not impossible!
Once God had opened my eyes to the need for a clean break, He provided me with some great resources. Most importantly, his presence and encouragement as I walked through a healing process.
If you’d like to know more about how this transpired in my life and what it looks like to heal your relationship with food, I’d encourage you to get LiveWell With SonyaKathryn. https://www.sonyakathryn.online/shop
In the course you will learn about how God opened my eyes to His purpose for food and our bodies, you’ll hear about supplements which were the initial catalyst for the journey, and you’ll begin your own self assessment through journal prompts and activities.
So, don’t put up with a bad relationship with food for another minute. Ask God to show you where He wants to set you free!
